6 Ways To Find Out If Your Friend Is Actually A Friend
I have come to a point in my life where I can honestly say I don’t expect from many people around me anymore. I no longer depend on others for my happiness. Fortunately I have been able to decipher who my true friend was since the very beginning of my friendships. And although many usually say that the ideal way to live a happy life is by surrounding yourself with people who make you happy. Not in all cases though. Often times you can get hurt by those who you consider your absolute favorite person. Even Though it is unfortunate, it is vital that you depart from any friendship that causes harm. If a friendship is no longer benefitting you, its best of you just end it before you engage in a toxic relationship. Causing harm is bad as it is, now intentionally not ending a toxic relationship is worse. At the end of the day, you matter a lot and it is important that you value yourself because nobody else will.
Heres a list of ways to decide whether your friends are genuine or not.
“There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.” ~ Thomas Aquinas
1. TRUE FRIENDS HONOR THEIR WORDS WITH ACTIONS.
“The focus should not be on talking. Talk is cheap. It must be on action.” ~ Howard Berman
Love is needed everywhere and by everyone. It is important that you surround yourself with people who show you love. Using all sorts of colorful and enticing words won’t do it. Make sure that their words match their actions just as they say the love and care about you. If the two match, then that should let you know to honor your friendship with that person.
2. TRUE FRIENDS FIND TIME FOR YOU IN THEIR BUSY SCHEDULE.
“Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. It is not enough to just say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless… Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is “T-I-M-E.” ~ Rick Warren
True friendships will always find time for you regardless of their busy schedule. I don’t think any amount of hours or errands can make up for true friendships. If you want to test how much your bestfriend loves you as much as they say they do, see if they make themselves available the next time you want to meet with them even if you don’t urgently need them. True friends will always make time for their friends regardless of the hectic lives they carry.
3. TRUE FRIENDS LAUGH WITH YOU, BUT THEY ALSO CRY WITH YOU.
“If one day you feel like crying… call me I don’t promise that I will make you laugh but I can cry with you. If one day you want to run away Don’t be afraid to call me. I don’t promise to ask you to stop, but I can run with you. If one day you don’t want to listen to anyone call me I promise to be there for you but I also promise to remain quiet but… If one day you call and there is no answer… come fast to see me.. Perhaps I need you.” ~ Robert J. Lavery
At the end of the day, when your friend laughs when you laugh but cries when you cry then that’s how you should know you have a keeper. These are people who will be with you in times of celebration but most importantly will stick with you when life gets rough. When times get dark and painful moments surround you, many tend to leave without any trace of reasoning. On the contrary, if you have a friend that supports you in the good and bad times, don’t let go of them. True friends are meant to stay with you for as long as life permits.
4. TRUE FRIENDS REMIND YOU OF WHO YOU TRULY ARE UNDERNEATH IT ALL.
“If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Even if you fail at becoming the person who you aspire to become. Regardless of your true colors and who you really act and are around yourself and others whether it’s harmful or not, those who truly love you will never blame nor criticize you for your weaknesses. They on the contrary remind you of who you really are because they love and cherish you for who you are.
5. TRUE FRIENDS GIVE YOU PERMISSION TO BE YOURSELF.
“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” ~ Jim Morrison
Your true friends will never change or control you despite who you are. They probably won’t even have the thought to change or alter who you truly are. True friends will always give you permission to be yourself. Don’t be afraid to be yourself around these friends – they won’t judge you!
6. TRUE FRIENDS MAKE YOU BETTER, NOT BITTER.
“True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.” ~ Baltasar Gracian
True friends bring out the best in you. They allow for great things to happen to you when you’re engaged with their presence. They help to enhance your life in ways that can help you. They will essentially help you become a better person with everything that they can. Also, they may inspire you to give it your all when doing things that you love and enjoy doing. Living life to your full potential is important to them therefore keep in mind that they always look for the goof in the bad. Always remember, true friends make you better, not bitter!